Why Boys Will Always Be Boys

I write more often than I post and I read more than I write so I tend to get most of my topics from the 'hidden' words in other peoples writings and this post you're about to read is one of such. This is not in anyway a reply to the post but oh! Well.... It has had its own fair share of the draft experience so EnJoY!!!

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This wasn't the story I had in mind but after reading the post 'Her Story' on Kemmiiii's blog, my mind changed, I felt the need to address the saying 'Boys will always be Boys' when it comes to relationships.

Though, I felt pain for the 'Adeleye' tattooed gurl, I felt more pain in my heart when I read the phrase 'Boys will always be Boys', maybe cos that's the part 'I got mentioned' or can it be that gurls will never be gurls??? *now asking Google*

I am not here to tell you the story of how the poor mans wife suddenly became the wife of the rich man or how a gurl dumped her boyfriend for his best friend cos he's richer and commands more resources, neither am I here to tell you how a gurl used black magic on a guy so that he will love her *changes channel from African Magic to Discovery Channel*. All am about is that, the reason 'Boys will always be Boys', is the fact that 'Girls haven't and will never stop being Girls'.


I guess boys always feel too 'big' or should I say they 'act a fool' when they are heartbroken or how will I ever want my friends to see me sob over a gurl that has dumped my ass when there are millions of gurls out there? I guess being able to laugh when a gurl say its over and moving on with another gurl are part of the qualities of a 'big boy' so why will I not want to be called one? *pops bottle water* :p

On the contrary, based on the kind of society we are in, a gurl moving from one boyfriend to another and another and then another.... *sighs* will be seen as an 'ashy' and except you are Ordinabarbie or her close associate, you will definitely not want to be termed such. So what way can a gurl escape this? Simple! By acting a fool, sobbing and claiming she has been dumped by her man even if she dumped him, she will then go ahead to tell her gurlfriends how he cheated on her even if he never did, all in a bid to paint him black and make her look like the angel in the relationship. Yeah! *changes keyboard* Gurls want to be seen as the perfect lovers with no fault *removes glasses*, they want to take all the glory of making the relationship work for a lil' period of time, so they created and enacted the phrase 'Boys will be Boys' which they have so carved in a way that once heard, a guy who knows deep inside of him and deep between his legs that he is a 'boy' will denial that fact only to claim that he is not a boy but a man and in fact, a responsible man *sighs* self denial at its peak, right? *now slapping self*

I hope I have not and will never fall for this emotional blackmail. Yes! The phrase, 'Boys will always be boys' is an emotional blackmail, gurls want to blackmail the guys by playing with their emotions and putting the guys at the defence but as a guy, will you just sit down there trying to defend yourself all day or will you also move out of that 'phrase' and make it a sentence in order to set your emotions right and your conscience free?

Look into a gurls eyes today and tell her that 'Boys will always be boys cos Gurls will never stop being gurls'.


NB: This is as personal as it can get so if you can't take it as such, try drinking garri with mango or eat banana with butter. Oh! Did I even mention that its my opinion and I want it to be yours too *sips oyel*

#MovingOn